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Here are the top 5 mistakes men commonly make that will unknowingly turn off your partner:

No1:
Not listening.Gets distracted or not  asking concerned questions.
Effect: She feels unloved because he is not showing that he cares. Women craves for attention.

No2:
Takes her feeling literally and offers solutions. Men  tend to offer solution as we are wired to solve problems in order to feel successful. She just wants a listening ear.
Effect: She feels unloved because he does not understand her.

No 3:
He listens but get angry.
Effect: She feels unloved because he does  not respect her feelings.

No 4:
He spends more time with children or work is more important.
Effect: She feels unloved because he does not honor her as special and is not devoted to her.

No 5:
When she is upset, he explains why he is right and why she should not feel upset.
Effect: She feels unloved because  he  did not validate her feelings and feels unsupported.

In summary, whenever she complains, just give her full attention. Maintain eye contact and nod your head a few times. Do not offer solutions ( unless she specifically ask).
Say something nice to her and give her some hugs.
Women will complain as that  is their way of solving problems.

ALWAYS look your best. I know this sounds REALLY obvious but you’d be surprised by how many men don’t understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s become a bit of a cliché because it’s true — first impressions really do count.

Here are some figures to consider from my studies.

If you make a GOOD first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of EVER getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at ANY point – she might like women herself etc).

If you make a BAD first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you AFTER the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad.

It’s the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you’re on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success – no helicopters for you.

Honestly, I can’t stress this enough — always try to look your best.

Tiff’s 5 S’s of first impressions.

Shave. Shower. Stylish. Smell. Shoes.

Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of them before you go out.

Why are shoes my number 5 S?

Your shoes are the FIRST thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable.

What you wear is very important. I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed.

Get the latest GQ magazine or other fashionable men’s magazine’s and imitate the styles you see there — most women don’t really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don’t have to spend the Earth on clothing.

Many guys I help dress better usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days.

Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells soooo good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don’t know her - well, that’s how women feel too.

Wear a good-quality cologne, but don’t spray too much.

One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists — maximum. You don’t want to smell too overpowering.

I recommend cool water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don’t sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is GREAT!

And here’s a GREAT little SECRET that I have found will help you actually pickup about 24% of women without SAYING a word to them! Not a single word! And NO rejection either. You won’t find this anywhere else either. What you need to do is…

By Tiffany Taylor
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 Here are some awesome tips for men on how to win over women.

Making Women Lust For You
Copyright (c) 2007 Kathy Stafford, All Rights Reserved
Dear Kathy
http://www.dearkathy.com

Talk to just about any man, and the odds are pretty good that
he’ll tell he wouldn’t mind being the kind of man that women
lust after. We all want to think that we’re physically
attractive to the opposite sex. However, there are a lot of
different reasons that a woman lusts over a man, so there’s no
one way that any guy can make any woman lust for him. If your
goal is to have women lust after you, there are certain things
that you can do to make yourself attractive to the broadest range
of women possible.

First on the agenda is your appearance.

Sure, many physical attributes are subjective and it’s true that
“beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” but there are certain
elements that you can incorporate into your appearance that will
increase the odds that women are going to be drawn to you. Most
women like their men to be clean and looking sharp. If you show
up for your date with a nice five o’clock shadow and your
clothes looking like you’ve run the Boston Marathon in them, the
odds are pretty good that your date isn’t going to swoon over
you. On the flip side, if you show up having just given yourself
a good shave and in clean clothes, you’re probably on the way to
making a pretty good impression. Something else to remember is
that most women love a dazzling smile and for their men to have a
decent haircut – even though hair length and style are both
pretty subjective. Something else that you might work on is
getting your eyes to twinkle, making it much more likely for you
to get off to a great start.

After your appearance, we get into the gray area of personality
traits – some of which women love and some of which women
dislike. If you ask what personality trait women most like in a
man, the odds are pretty good that “a sense of humor” is going
to be near the top of the list. This doesn’t mean that you have
to find Homer Simpson to be the epitome of comedy or that you
need to have watched SOUTH PARK, but rather that you don’t take
yourself or life too seriously. When you’re out on that date, if
you can make a woman laugh, you’re well on the road to having
her seriously want you.

When you’re out with her, make sure that you listen to her. No
woman likes a man who monopolizes the conversation. Also, don’t
turn into Mike Macho when it comes time to picking up the check.
If she says that she wants to split it, don’t make it into a
battle. Go along with her and watch as she enjoys the way that
you’re respecting her wishes.

Women like men who are self-confident, but that doesn’t mean
that they enjoy arrogant men. They don’t. They want someone who
is knows who he is without being a jerk about it. This also holds
true when it comes to being someone who doesn’t have a 6-pack
abdomen. Most women find men who are attentive to their needs and
are confident, relaxed, and sincere, are the men that they most
want to spend time with.

In short, with probably just a little work, you can turn yourself
into the man that woman are lusting over.

————

———————————————-
Kathy Stafford, Relationship Coach, “I show singles how to get
married and couples how to STAY married” Do you want more from
your relationship? Go to http://www.dearkathy.com for
relationship articles, advice, and programs.

Get Kathy’s new book, “Relationship Remorse: Mistakes Women Make
When Shopping for a Man.” and learn the right way to find a
loving and committed life-partner. Order the book at
http://www.relationshipremorse.com

Copyright © 2007 Kathy Stafford / dearkathy.com. All rights reserved.

Recently, I was at a hospital, waiting to collect some medicine at the dispensary.To my surprise, at one corner of the waiting area, there is a library which reads ‘For patients only”. So to kill time, I went in and was amazed at the books and magazines that one can browse while waiting for one’s medicine.
As love-making is a favorite subject with me, I immediately scan the books with this topic.A book by Dr Gillian McKeith caught my attention. She lists some food that will enable us to charge up our sexual energy, enhance potency and fertility.
Hmm, what better ways to have great sex and eat healthy food at the same time.
Here are some of the food:
- Apple
-Asparagus
-Avocados
-Beetroot
-Blackcurrent
-Brown rice
-Celery
-Cherries
-Cinnamon
-Dates
-Fennel
-Figs
-Garlic
-Ginger
-Hazelnuts
-Licorice
-Mangoes
-Nutmeg
-Oats
-Onion
-Parsley
-Promegranates
-Pumpkin
-Raspberries
-Seaweed
-Soybeans
-Spinach
-Spirulina
-Strawberries
-Sunflower seed
-Tomatoes
-Trout
And the best of all…raw sauerkraut according to a German research.
Don’t abandon your present diet.Just ensure you add the above into your diet.
Also for best quick results, ladies can try HerSolutionGel while the guys can consider XtraJoy

Happy eating and love-making!

Durex, a leading condom manufacturer reported in their sexual wellbeing survey in 2006 that 6 in 10 Singaporeans feel their sex lives lack excitement.
Other interesting findings:
–Would like to have sex more than once a week=67%
–Wish for more romance in their sex lives=54%
–Wish for more better communication=60%

I don’t know about you guys but I think if the men take Xtrajoy and the women use HerSolutionGel, the bed will be like an earthquake and the above three problems easily solved.

Other interesting findings in the survey:
–People in Greece are the most eager to go to bed-87% have sex at least once a week.
–Nigerians say sex is exciting-78%
–Japanese are the most miserable lot-only 10% say sex is exciting.

Good news ( or bad?) for the women:
– Singaporean women has an average of 3 partners.
–World average is 7 partners.
–New Zealand women are the cream…20 partners.

Gee, I wish I was born in New Zealand.
Hmm, on second thought, maybe I can consider to retire in New Zealand.

As we grow older, it is natural that our testosterone level declines. Coupled with daily work stress, many men experience some form of low sex drive, temporary impotence or some level of erectile dysfunction. It can be physical or emotional causes but the bottom line is that we will not enjoy our love-making session like the way we use to.

Here are seven effective tips on how a 50 year-old man can unleash his masculine power and become like a 20 year-old man during love-making…

Tip #1: Aromatherapy – Jasmine is known for its aphrodisiac properties. Use jasmine oil or essence in your room when you make love or soak in a handkerchief and inhale.

Tip #2: Using magnets. A few hours before love-making, place a magnet at your sacral chakra point. Stick the magnet to your body using masking tape or surgical tape or plaster. The sacral chakra is situated about 2 inches below your navel. If you place the magnet overnight, you may get a morning erection the following day. This shows that blood circulation has indeed occurred in your body. During love-making, you can attach two magnets at your back or kidney areas. Great way to prevent back ache.

Tip #3: Drink guinness stout (black beer) with raw egg. In Asia, this is a popular concoction. Break a raw chicken egg in your cup with stout, stir and drink.

Tip #4: Yoga exercises. There are various poses to increase your blood circulation for the targeted areas like your groin and back. Two popular poses are the cobra pose and the easy bridge pose. Very briefly, cobra pose is when you arch backwards. Legs and buttock on the floor. Bridge pose is when your buttocks are lifted up. Head and shoulder on the floor. Warning: do not perform them if you do not know what I am talking.

Tip #5: If you are a crystal lover, this if for you…Fluorite rekindles libido. Jasper prolongs sexual pleasure and pink tourmaline has aphrodisiac properties.

Tip #6: Minimize or quit smoking and minimize drinking alcohol. This is common knowledge but often neglected

Tip#7: Using Chinese herbs.==>Xtrajoy. This is my favorite as it is fast acting and may last many hours. You don’t have to know if your failure to achieve peak performance is due to physical or emotional causes.Just try them. There are many commercially available herbs and you just have to try out a few to find your favorite formula.

As a precaution, always consult your doctor if in doubt.

As we grow older, it is natural that our testosterone level declines. Coupled with daily work stress, many men experience some form of low sex drive, temporary impotence or some level of erectile dysfunction. It can be physical or emotional causes but the bottom line is that we will not enjoy our love-making session like the way we use to.

Here are seven effective tips on how a 50 year-old man can unleash his masculine power and become like a 20 year-old man during love-making…

Tip #1: Aromatherapy – Jasmine is known for its aphrodisiac properties. Use jasmine oil or essence in your room when you make love or soak in a handkerchief and inhale.

Tip #2: Using magnets. A few hours before love-making, place a magnet at your sacral chakra point. Stick the magnet to your body using masking tape or surgical tape or plaster. The sacral chakra is situated about 2 inches below your navel. If you place the magnet overnight, you may get a morning erection the following day. This shows that blood circulation has indeed occurred in your body.

During love-making, you can attach two magnets at your back or kidney areas. Great way to prevent back ache.

Tip #3: Drink guiness stout (black beer) with raw egg. In Asia, this is a popular concoction. Break a raw chicken egg in your cup with stout, stir and drink.

Tip #4: Yoga exercises. There are various poses to increase your blood circulation for the targeted areas like your groin and back. Two popular poses are the cobra pose and the easy bridge pose. Very briefly, cobra pose is when you arch backwards. Legs and buttock on the floor. Bridge pose is when your buttocks are lifted up. Head and shoulder on the floor. Warning: do not perform them if you do not know what I am talking.

Tip #5: If you are a crystal lover, this if for you…Fluorite rekindles libido. Jasper prolongs sexual pleasure and pink tourmaline has aphrodisiac properties.

Tip #6: Minimize or quit smoking and minimize drinking alcohol. This is common knowledge but often neglected

Tip#7: Using chinese herbs. This is my favorite as it is fast acting and last many hours. Great solution if you do not know if you are not at your peak performance due to physical or emotional causes. There are many commercially available herbs and you just have to try out a few to find your favorite formula.

As a precaution, if you are not sure, always consult your doctor.

I was at a clinic recently to see the doctor for my flu. But something caught my attention whilst waiting for my turn. It was an advertisement by one of the biggest pharmaceutical company. And it read something like this… ‘you are not alone. More than 50% of male age 40 to 70 years old suffers some form of erectile dysfunction (ED)”.

ED is defined as a condition where the man either cannot keep an erection long enough to complete sex or the inability to get an erection, even with sexual stimulation ED can be temporary or permanent, depending on the severity. The older one gets, the more severe the degree of ED.

How can a person tell if he is suffering from some form of ED? The best is to consult your doctor but here is a fairly simple do-it-yourself way.

When you wake up in the morning, you should have an erection. A healthy male should have an erection at least once in three days. If you do not experience an erection within three days, chances are that you suffer from some degree of ED.

The setbacks if one is suffering from some form of ED are:
- Cannot enjoy sex to the fullest for him or as a couple
- Feeling of anxiety and depression
- Feeling of less masculine or decreased self-esteem.
- Less love-making sessions and may cause spouse to get suspicious of other woman.

There are many causes of ED.
Some of the more common causes are stress at work, too much drinking, lack of sleep and so on. But we need not know the ‘why’, unless you are in the medical field. As ordinary men, we just need to know the ‘how’. Or the how to overcome it.

While there are western drugs or medicines, there are other alternatives like using Chinese herbs, which are not harmful in the long term. As an example, click here

Some herbs are not meant for ED only. They are used as a general energy booster. Even healthy males reported enjoying a more heighten love- making session.

Do explore such alternatives, which have a growing interest for substitutes to western drugs. However, the solution on using the herbs are not meant to be a substitute for medical advice. Do consult your doctor if you have severe ED or if in doubt.